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well didnt know wat title to give this one.. this post actually started as jus a comment on a friends blog askthe acharya.wordpress.com ... thought i'd keep it small n nip it in the bud.. but it went on n on..
now i'm no expert on women or on people n social skills.. but these r jus somethings i've learnt.. in the hard way.. yes some of em.. so here it goes..
jus when i'd typed n was uploadin this..
neway.. back to spuare one..
lotta diff perspectives to a very simple topic.. but tats life.. its never really tat simple..
well most of the aspects of approachin women have been covered.. so let me c wat i can add on to this interestin topic..
girls/women r very moody.. so u gotta watch wat u say n when u say it.. more importantly how u say it.. this is not only true when u n the opp sex r jus gettin to know each other.. its even more imperative when ur in a relationship..
CONFIDENCE.. yes v r back to tat again.. is very much necessary.. u cant jus put on a facade n get away wit it.. however good an actor u r.. its gotta come from within.. groom urself on the outside but dont over do it.. cos then ur jus tryin too hard n it only shows ur insecure.. tuff to get tat balance but u will after many mistakes :-) dont b afraid..
LISTEN.. u gotta really listen n b genuinely interested in wat the other person is saying.. girls will easily spot a faker.. well most of em do..
some ppl jus aren't interested in relationships n will want to keep it purely platonic.. now this is true of most girls.. guys hardly ever reject a girl.. lol.. neway so u gotta knw when to draw the line n not force anything upon tat person.. let things b.. let go..
its important to let go n not the easiest thing to do if i may add.. but very much necessary.. hell theres always vodka ;-)
but i dont think tats the best way.. wats important is to get it out of ur system tat things will jus not work out.. n again if vodka helps then go for it!! move on without causin too much harm to oneself.. u'll only come out stronger :-)
lastly but not the leat.. RESPECT.. it forms the crux of all wat i've said.. respect the opp sex's opinions, privacy n more importantly the differences.. i think a relationship is beautiful not only in the similarities bt in the differences too..
to all the women readin this.. there r nice guys out there too.. not all guys want jus sex.. v too like kisses, hugs n holdin hands.. i'm sure ur all smiles!!
n to all the guys.. boys will b boys.. but pls stop ogling at women.. its really cheap.. n plus theres a huge but subtle diff between ogling n appreciating beauty..
i hope v all find out true love/soulmate etc etc... n spend our lifetime wit them.. n b4 gettin into a serious relationship.. think carefully abt wat ur gettin into.. there'll b a lotta sacrifices to make.. but in the end u have the 2 of u together to take on wat life has to throw at ya.. n knowin tat is the greatest feelin in the world!! cos u knw u wont die alone n will mean somethin to someone special to u!!
a toast to all of u!!
cheers :-)
posted by tan @ 3:31 am
16 Comments:
hey that was well said and so true...but not all girls are moody ;-)...lol jokes apart u have potrayed the side effects of falling in love and the strange part is all the love stories are actually the same lol , the same sacrifices to make....falling in love could be easy but whats the difficult part is maintaining with ur partner and dealing with it.....
but i guess in the end of the day everybodys loves to be in love....;-)
well said dolly.. i think i'll rename it pyar ke side effects.. lol.. but i dnt think its just abt tat.. neway wat the eyes c,the ears hear, the mind believes n the heart writes a blog :-)
i totally agree with the potrayal of love, but one fact is when u are in love, the brain and heart sometimes dont agree... especially when u kno that sumthin that has to be done is necessary, but u dont wanna do it coz of its consequences, and the whole process of thinkin whether it would hurt the other person involved... and sumthin even worse is u relate to sumthin in the movies.... oh man... love in short = confusion + confession + control + conscience!! that equation may take time to understand... but thats my thinkin...
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ha ha.. nice equation there arjun.. defntly true.. n abt the heart n mind comin into conflict.. yes tats very true.. u come across many situations in life where they come into conflict.. ultimately its the choice u make.. n tat u stand by it n dont look back!! u'll b a lot happier then..
neat..never knew tat u had started bloggin..cool stuff..portrayin the psyche of the fairer sex..and lots the consequences rather side affects of fallin in luv..luv is somethin tat comes from the heart and the mind cant decide whether its right or wrong..its jus an intution tat u follow..epxectin the worst n hopin for the best..
if only all men would be this sweet, considerate n nice..
Hey buddy,nice blog but unfortunately I am going to disagree.
your experience n nature have given u this romantic outlook,but look closer or read this.
Love is a load of crap.over rated.it aint there without lust,gal or guy its the same.
Ask any one couple claiming to b in love n tell them not to have any kind of physical contact.n u know I am rite.
I agree with u on other things,end of the day love is lookin at life the way ur partner does,and liking the view.
If u got that line,bravo!Brickbats expected,please contact author for that!
dude.. since ur expecting some brickbats might as well start wit them :-) i never said love is witout any lust.. this article was meant as a reply to another blog.. if u go thru tat one u'll know y this blog has a romantic(as u termed it) outlook.. kinda expected u or someone else to bring the lust part up.. seriyana kedi da ni.. nd yes this is an outcome of a short but very memorable experience as well as a culmination of many others tat i've had!! no denying tat..also this hasn't had me wearin rose tinted glasses about the whole world we live in..
bro, one good thing u bring up is the one about u nr ur partner lookin at life in the same vein n liking it.. tats true.. if this is the case wit most of u out there.. then fantastic ur on a ROLL!!
cheers :-)
I figure its a replay to another reply..but take my word on this.
Its lust that counts.as long as ur partner is the best lookin thing in your eyes its fine,the day he/she aint then the problems start.
this is true for most ...of course some will b who avoid this whole thin n actually have a meaningful relationship...
yup, what arjun said is right.. when in love ur heart and brain dont agree.. worst case even if u knw she is cheating on you, u still forgive her!
My friend here Mister Wickerman said that love is something that comes from the heart. I disagree with u my friend.Lets see...
What happens when we see a girl(beautiful)? The brains pleasure centre is stimulated releasing dopamine, norepinephrine and serotonin(act similar as amphetamine). Side effects of the release of these chemicals are increased heart rate, loss of appetite and sleep and an intense feeling of excitement.Well, my friend, as we see here everything happens in the brain. dont u think Mister Wickerman that our brain is responsible for us falling in love and breaking our necks now?
Idisagree with u Mster Prem Kumar. Love is not crap. love is a constellation of emotions and experiences related to a strong affection or profound oneness(narcissism). The meaning of love varies relative to context. I classify love into 3 types such as Passionate love, Romantic love and Committed love.Further generalised into a level of sexual attraction. When we say love we relate it to 1)adoration for another person/thing
2)a state of relational status.
love can also be construed as Platonic love(dont u love ur friends?), Religious love(dont u love the religion u follow), Familial love(dont u love ur parents?),and more casually great affection for anything considered strongly desirable, pleasurable or preferred, to include activities and food.Do u still believe love is crap Mister Prem Kumar?
This is to u miss Dolly.Menstruation, which every women has to go through every month if she is not pregnant, brings along with it abdominal pain, migraine headaches,dysmennorhea,depression, emotional sensitivity and changes in sex drive. Many women experience emotional side effects. they are 1) irritability 2)tiredness 3) weepiness.I agree that the sensations experienced vary from woman to woman and from cycle to cycle. So dont u agree with me now when i say that every woman goes through mood swings? No offence. We love Women.
ah mr.suhib u have actually stolen away wat i was about to wirte more on this topic we so adore n yet r so intimidated by.. the science behind love.. i agree wit u about it.. its true.. proven fact.. but is tat how u wanna live life.. everythin defined n put in order.. wheres the fun in tat??? n i'm glad u still enjoy the romantic side of it all too n not jus clinical about it.. thank u for ur comments.. i really mean it :-)
wish u well in ur endeavours of love!! whoever tat person is u fall in love wit hang on to them.. love is hard to find!! its not jus chemical lochaa !!
When love is unknown to u, u know what is happiness, when u know love, u know what is pain and when u lose it u know what is life.Does any one here know what life is? Have heard people say that marriages are made in heaven.We fall in love with more than one girl in our lifetime. Is it the result of the number of times we got engaged to different girls which did not end up in marriage back in heaven? what is love and lust? if they are synonymous, dont u think we should fall in love after marriage?
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