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well didnt know wat title to give this one.. this post actually started as jus a comment on a friends blog askthe acharya.wordpress.com ... thought i'd keep it small n nip it in the bud.. but it went on n on..

now i'm no expert on women or on people n social skills.. but these r jus somethings i've learnt.. in the hard way.. yes some of em.. so here it goes..

jus when i'd typed n was uploadin this..

neway.. back to spuare one..

lotta diff perspectives to a very simple topic.. but tats life.. its never really tat simple..

well most of the aspects of approachin women have been covered.. so let me c wat i can add on to this interestin topic..

girls/women r very moody.. so u gotta watch wat u say n when u say it.. more importantly how u say it.. this is not only true when u n the opp sex r jus gettin to know each other.. its even more imperative when ur in a relationship..

CONFIDENCE.. yes v r back to tat again.. is very much necessary.. u cant jus put on a facade n get away wit it.. however good an actor u r.. its gotta come from within.. groom urself on the outside but dont over do it.. cos then ur jus tryin too hard n it only shows ur insecure.. tuff to get tat balance but u will after many mistakes :-) dont b afraid..

LISTEN.. u gotta really listen n b genuinely interested in wat the other person is saying.. girls will easily spot a faker.. well most of em do..

some ppl jus aren't interested in relationships n will want to keep it purely platonic.. now this is true of most girls.. guys hardly ever reject a girl.. lol.. neway so u gotta knw when to draw the line n not force anything upon tat person.. let things b.. let go..

its important to let go n not the easiest thing to do if i may add.. but very much necessary.. hell theres always vodka ;-)

but i dont think tats the best way.. wats important is to get it out of ur system tat things will jus not work out.. n again if vodka helps then go for it!! move on without causin too much harm to oneself.. u'll only come out stronger :-)

lastly but not the leat.. RESPECT.. it forms the crux of all wat i've said.. respect the opp sex's opinions, privacy n more importantly the differences.. i think a relationship is beautiful not only in the similarities bt in the differences too..

to all the women readin this.. there r nice guys out there too.. not all guys want jus sex.. v too like kisses, hugs n holdin hands.. i'm sure ur all smiles!!

n to all the guys.. boys will b boys.. but pls stop ogling at women.. its really cheap.. n plus theres a huge but subtle diff between ogling n appreciating beauty..

i hope v all find out true love/soulmate etc etc... n spend our lifetime wit them.. n b4 gettin into a serious relationship.. think carefully abt wat ur gettin into.. there'll b a lotta sacrifices to make.. but in the end u have the 2 of u together to take on wat life has to throw at ya.. n knowin tat is the greatest feelin in the world!! cos u knw u wont die alone n will mean somethin to someone special to u!!

a toast to all of u!!
cheers :-)